“Make fear a tailwind instead of a headwind. Let fear give you the momentum to move forward — not hold you back”- Jimmy Iovine
Fear can be crippling. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of the unknown. These all hold us back from taking on life’s challenges. You have 2 choices: Either let the fear win or use it is petrol to light the fire of momentum to achieve your goals and dreams.
I have previously had fears of becoming a failed gym owner, drug addict, gambling addict, and a neglecting dad. Why? Because I was all of the above and then some. The fear of going back to that is enough to keep me on the straight and narrow. I stay away from these toxic elements because ultimately they do not serve any purpose in my life, none of them will help me achieve my goals so why would I bother? But also the fear of. what just 1 beer could do to my life. People often say would you ever drink again and I say “no”. The reason why isn’t the fact I don’t think I could have 1 beer with the boys and thats it. Its the next week when I have 2 beers because I “was sweet” to just have one… a month later its 6 beers…. 6 months later its like I never left the party scene. I would lose everything I have worked so hard for in the space of 6 months. How do I know that? Because it has happened before.
Now this fear of mine is not seen as a negative for me. I relish it. I love having it there because it keeps me grounded and wanting to push on further and further away from the man I was almost 3 years ago.
The fear of failing as a gym owner again is what keeps me wanting to evolve. My old gym became a way for me to survive where it was only a means to end to barely support myself in the end. I put myself and all its problems that came with me at the time before my business and ended up hating what I was doing. Thats because I was going against my own moral values, the person I was being didn’t agree with the person I wanted to become. But now I use the fear of becoming that person to my advantage. I put my energy into helping people with their lifestyle with fitness and making healthier decisions and in return I feel like I’m aligning with my core values which gives me purpose to get up and go to “work” everyday. I love what I do, I love helping people which is the opposite to how I felt when I feared failure every day, feared being honest because I knew what the truth would show to the world. Fear would cripple me.
Fear of the unknown is always scary but what I find even scarier is the fear of not knowing what I could have achieved if I had have just had a go. This is one area where I have been fortunate, as I have not been scared off by the risk of failing, and have always at least tried. I believe that failure is the best form of learning and it only becomes a failure when you quit and don’t learn anything.
So what do we take from fear? Don’t let it destroy your passions and dreams, turn the negativity of fear into a positive by using it as motivation to not give up and don’t let it control your life. Bad things will happen no matter what but living in fear of them isn’t going to prevent them from happening.